Adoption Searching...Not so Easy

Ahhhh...yeah, I'd take the power of the world...right here at my fingertips on the Internet and start searching out information on adoption, birth parents, adoptees....

Be so easy...can find out ANYTHING on the Internet, eh?

ha

You think other people can find out anything about you on the Internet... I hear it all the time on the news. Identity theft, credit card fraud, stalkers... and so on.

People can use the Internet to find out everything...

Well, not everything.

Seems that searching information about your own self and YOUR OWN identity is not an easy task.

I can go to my library and track births and deaths of my neighbors back to the 1800s via census information, newspapers, funeral records...all that jazz.

Right there at my fingertips. On the Internet, I can find their grandfathers social security number, birth information...whatever.

But me...

not so much.

Apparently I need to be safeguarded...from me.

So I can write in and ask some random person...in some random office...if they would deign to discuss me...with me.

Even then I don't get a 'discussion'.

My identity has been stolen by the state of California it seems.

...for my own protection.

bah.

What are You Looking for in an Adoption Search?

thinking out loud again...

what are most folks looking forward when they decide to do an adoption search? Medical information? Birthparents? Siblings? Half-siblings? Other relatives? Winnie the Pooh?

ha

Okay, maybe not so much Winnie...but I wonder what most are looking for when they set out to search for information on their adoption.

....perhaps it is just the quest for the unknown?

Another question on California adoptions....

thought of another question about California adoptions back in the late 60s?

if the plan was to give the baby for adoption going into the birth....did the mother get to find out the sex of the baby?

....not that anyone is looking for me...but I wonder if they even know if I am a boy or a girl.

ha

dumb question... i know. :)

Adoption Reunions...or adoption introductions?

re·un·ion (r-ynyn)
n.
1.
a. The act of reuniting.
b. The state of being reunited.
2. A gathering of the members of a group who have been separated: a high school reunion.

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth Edition copyright ©2000 by Houghton Mifflin Company. Updated in 2003. Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.

Wondering out loud this morning about adoption reunions...I've looked around at different adoption registry sites and they say things like "adoption reunion registry", "adoption reunion resources", "adoption reunion links", and "adoption reunion database." There's even an entry in Wikipedia.

Is it really a reunion? I wonder...

What was the routine in the late 60s in California for women giving up a child for adoption at birth? Did they see them? Did they stay for a day or two with the newborn or immediately separated? Or are we talking 'reunion' from the basest sense as in separation with the womb?

I don't know "when" I was given up for adoption...probably right away I'd guess, but don't know. I wasn't adopted until after my first birthday and by then I suppose my 'parent' was the state of California.

I wonder what they put on your birth certificate for that period between being given up for adoption and being adopted. I mean...you still exist...so you have a birth certificate right? Or are you just a little undocumented alien?

getting sidetracked....

back to wondering about the SOP in California in the late 60s... guess I'll bop around on the internet and see if I see any other adoption stories that mention how adoptions were handled...

......just curious. :)

Success in my adoption quest...sorta....

Ahhhh... okay, with as many emails as I send, you'd think I could successfully reply and hit send.

Three failure notices later.....

I finally acheived success!!!!!!! yeah!

Well, I kinda sorta maybe acheived success, in that my adoption questionnaire was actually received by the group. :)

I still need to get my birth certificate. You know...I hadn't even thought about needing a copy of it. duh.

I've just always used my passport since we had to get that just after we got married....so I've had no need for it for the last twenty years.... silly me.

The contact was really nice and helpful though...so I'd certainly second the recommendation for California adoptees to check it out.

Some adoption sites seem a little shady...like they're just looking to separate a fool from his pennies...but this one seems legit and didn't ask for money. :)

color me impressed :)