Okay...thanks for the heads up from Ungrateful Little Bastard (cute name) about the California Adoptees group on Yahoo.
So much to ponder. I am such a chicken.
What is the non-identifying information that can be retrieved? Is certain information about an adoption findable easily? I mean...other than the date?
I do not live in California (not even close to California), so would that hamper any 'petitioning' of the county to be done about an adoption that took place in California?
I figured the success chances of finding a match on registries wouldn't be too high...the ones I've looked seem to quite random....more like hitting the lottery kind of odds.
One more dumb question....my parents are alive and well. I know I am an adult, but would any requests for information go through them as well? Just wondering...
p.s. cute 'Facts of Life' clips... now I'm off to see what all else you've posted :)
Monday, September 3, 2007
Sunday, September 2, 2007
Searching Adoption Records...how to search adoption records
How exactly does one set about to search adoption records? It's not like there is a webpage that says adoptionrecords.com. Or is it just that you can search adoption records if you live in an open adoption state?
I mean...I can't just hop off down to the courthouse and commence searching, can I?
Not that I would, but am just wondering.
I was born in Los Angeles, California...and adopted in Los Angeles...so it's not like there are just one or two people adopted from that wee little city. ha
I've looked on a couple of different sites and there are multiple, multiples of people registered for that exact date. Obviously you can weed out the boys and the ones with more specific information.
But goodness....the 'search' would seem to be so open-ended, especially in a city the size of Los Angeles that finding adoption records would be of the needle in a haystack variety.
And, like I said, I'm not on some quest to find out where they live or whatever...just more of a curiousity about the whole process people go through in order to find their biological parents.
Really shouldn't be so hard to find out what ought to be a given.
In my opinion.
I mean...I can't just hop off down to the courthouse and commence searching, can I?
Not that I would, but am just wondering.
I was born in Los Angeles, California...and adopted in Los Angeles...so it's not like there are just one or two people adopted from that wee little city. ha
I've looked on a couple of different sites and there are multiple, multiples of people registered for that exact date. Obviously you can weed out the boys and the ones with more specific information.
But goodness....the 'search' would seem to be so open-ended, especially in a city the size of Los Angeles that finding adoption records would be of the needle in a haystack variety.
And, like I said, I'm not on some quest to find out where they live or whatever...just more of a curiousity about the whole process people go through in order to find their biological parents.
Really shouldn't be so hard to find out what ought to be a given.
In my opinion.
What's my opinion on adoption?
My opinion on adoption?
A wonderful thing! Absolutely, without a doubt in my mind.
And it's not just a matter of prefering adoption over abortion...I prefer adoption over raising a child you are unprepared for mentally.
Not having enough money can be a struggle, but can be worked through. Raising a child because you "have to"...ugh.
Adoption is such a great alternative. It's not that the woman doesn't want the child...they are making an ADULT decision to do what's best for the child.
can't say that for a lot of folks...
A wonderful thing! Absolutely, without a doubt in my mind.
And it's not just a matter of prefering adoption over abortion...I prefer adoption over raising a child you are unprepared for mentally.
Not having enough money can be a struggle, but can be worked through. Raising a child because you "have to"...ugh.
Adoption is such a great alternative. It's not that the woman doesn't want the child...they are making an ADULT decision to do what's best for the child.
can't say that for a lot of folks...
Adoptions being a secret thing.....
Now when I said that "I wonder why adoptions are such a secret thing".... I did not mean why do people keep adoptions a secret. I was talking about why the information about an adoption....
I am quite sure there are people whose families, for whatever reason, did not tell their kids that they were not adopted. That did not happen to me. I've known for as long as I can remember knowing that I was adopted. Sure there may have been a time that I didn't understand exactly what that meant, but I don't remember it. I've always known that I was adopted.
Funny story...funny now, that is...ha....at my 8th birthday party, I wished for a little sister. I had a younger brother (also adopted) and like most young girls...thought a sister would be an improvement. ha. Another kid at the party was kind enough (sarcasm) to enlighten me to the fact that my mom couldn't have kids...so I needed to make a new wish. doofus girl. Well...pooh on her because when I was 13, lo and behold...my family grew with the addition of a new little sister that we adopted. Pretty cool, eh.
Anyway...rambling again...
The secret part I was talking about is the background information about the biological parents. Not their name, picture and social security number...but little trivial tidbits like their age, likes, dislikes, and what not. (sounds like a centerfold bio with out the pics...ha)
I think I know a few things...but for all I know I've imagined these things and turned them into facts. ha
I'd never quiz my folks on it...I know...my loss. But those are the things I'm curious about. I don't need a name, an address, a reason for giving up custody...those things aren't even all that interesting.
Do they like watching "Forensic Files" after dark, metal detecting in the woods...or ranch on their avocado????
you know...normal stuff
:)
I am quite sure there are people whose families, for whatever reason, did not tell their kids that they were not adopted. That did not happen to me. I've known for as long as I can remember knowing that I was adopted. Sure there may have been a time that I didn't understand exactly what that meant, but I don't remember it. I've always known that I was adopted.
Funny story...funny now, that is...ha....at my 8th birthday party, I wished for a little sister. I had a younger brother (also adopted) and like most young girls...thought a sister would be an improvement. ha. Another kid at the party was kind enough (sarcasm) to enlighten me to the fact that my mom couldn't have kids...so I needed to make a new wish. doofus girl. Well...pooh on her because when I was 13, lo and behold...my family grew with the addition of a new little sister that we adopted. Pretty cool, eh.
Anyway...rambling again...
The secret part I was talking about is the background information about the biological parents. Not their name, picture and social security number...but little trivial tidbits like their age, likes, dislikes, and what not. (sounds like a centerfold bio with out the pics...ha)
I think I know a few things...but for all I know I've imagined these things and turned them into facts. ha
I'd never quiz my folks on it...I know...my loss. But those are the things I'm curious about. I don't need a name, an address, a reason for giving up custody...those things aren't even all that interesting.
Do they like watching "Forensic Files" after dark, metal detecting in the woods...or ranch on their avocado????
you know...normal stuff
:)
Talking out loud about adoption searches....
Sometimes...okay...all the time...I ramble.
I suppose that's why I thought it would be interesting to start this blog about adoptions, searching for biological parents, and what not.
I am curious about it...granted. Not because I have a bunch of unanswered questions...but, I don't know...just curious.
I talk to no one about it. No one...not my husband, not my friends, not my dogs...lol. I'm not sure why...I think perhaps if I talked about it, then that would be taken as a slight against my parents.
I know...kind of silly. I'm 39 years old...definitely past the point of being able to speak for myself. But, I guess maybe I think people would automatically presume I am dissatisfied with my family and on the hunt for a new one.
Since I don't talk about it...my knowledge is obviously LIMITED. lol
I have read a variety of different postings on the internet....but so many seem to follow a theme of people who 'find' their 'families' and start this whole new life with them as a part of it....or those who hope to do so.
I wonder why adoptions are such a secret thing. Kind of wierd that one would be forced to search for something that ought to be obvious. You know...like an obvious fact, not something that would require private detectives and black op quests.
I've seen the different boards, but good grief...what happens once you sign up on that? Suddenly you've opened Pandora's box.
ouch.
I suppose that's why I thought it would be interesting to start this blog about adoptions, searching for biological parents, and what not.
I am curious about it...granted. Not because I have a bunch of unanswered questions...but, I don't know...just curious.
I talk to no one about it. No one...not my husband, not my friends, not my dogs...lol. I'm not sure why...I think perhaps if I talked about it, then that would be taken as a slight against my parents.
I know...kind of silly. I'm 39 years old...definitely past the point of being able to speak for myself. But, I guess maybe I think people would automatically presume I am dissatisfied with my family and on the hunt for a new one.
Since I don't talk about it...my knowledge is obviously LIMITED. lol
I have read a variety of different postings on the internet....but so many seem to follow a theme of people who 'find' their 'families' and start this whole new life with them as a part of it....or those who hope to do so.
I wonder why adoptions are such a secret thing. Kind of wierd that one would be forced to search for something that ought to be obvious. You know...like an obvious fact, not something that would require private detectives and black op quests.
I've seen the different boards, but good grief...what happens once you sign up on that? Suddenly you've opened Pandora's box.
ouch.
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